#Invalidation

HOW HELPFUL It’s important to remember when people say dumb stuff like this to you that it’s not a reflection of the validity of your struggle, its a reflection of that persons’ pain or lack of empathy. Whenever people say ignorant things to me now, instead of trying to convince them that it’s as hard as it feels, I just validate myself and remember that this isn’t a “safe” person to look for support from. Clearly, it’s a them problem. Not everyone is able to offer the encouragement, validation or support you need, so just take it as information and move on. I’d say hurt people hurt people but I honestly just think people hurt people. We’re all imperfect and at different places in our journey. And honestly, if someone invalidates you it’s a god sign they’ve spent a lot of time invalidating themselves. Motherhood feels hard because it is hard AND because it’s important and we want to do it well. Find people who who get it, leave the rest. What other comments drive you nuts? Follow @youthemother @modernmomprobs @maggiewithperspectacles @ourbeautifulsurprise and @diaryofanhonestmom for more supportive mom content #empathy #invalidation #motherhoodishard #honestmom #motherhood #momsgetit #momtruth #momguilt #strugglingmom

There is a difference between invalidation and gaslighting. Invalidation is when someone dismisses or minimizes your feelings, thoughts, or experiences. It’s a way of telling someone that their perspective is ‘too much’ ‘too little’ or not important. Invalidation often stems from a lack of understanding or empathy. Invalidation can be unintentional, stemming from a person’s lack of understanding or their own emotional discomfort. Gaslighting is often deliberate and is often used as a tool of control in abusive relationships. Invalidators often see emotional responses as exaggerated or unwarranted. Invalidation may not always have a malicious intent; it can sometimes arise from discomfort or lack of emotional intelligence. People who are invalidated often feel unheard or misunderstood. “You’re overreacting. It’s not that big of a deal.” “Why are you making such a fuss about this? It’s not worth getting upset over.” “I don’t know why you’re so sensitive. Normal people don’t get upset over things like this.” “There’s no reason to be sad. Look on the bright side.” “You’re too emotional. You should learn to control yourself.” Gaslighting, on the other hand, is a form of psychological manipulation. The goal of gaslighting is to make someone doubt their own reality or sanity. Gaslighters often deny facts, experiences, or emotions to manipulate their target. Gaslighters actively reshape facts to fit their narrative, hoping to make their targets feel isolated or crazy. Gaslighting, however, is almost always a deliberate tactic to dominate, control, or harm the other person mentally. People who are gaslighted feel confused, disoriented, doubting their own memory, judgment, or reality. “That never happened. You’re imagining things.” “You’re remembering it wrong. It didn’t happen like that.” “I never said that. You must be confused.” “Everyone thinks you’re overreacting. They’re concerned about your mental state.” “No one else saw it that way. Are you sure you’re okay?” .#InnerJourney #InnerLife #InnerExperience #gaslighting #gaslightingawareness #invalidation #toxicrelationships #psychologyfacts

Silly me, just thinking it might be more beneficial to say nothing than to say something hurtful to someone who is already hurting. To those of you longing for validation and comfort, I see you. #invalidation #complextraumarecovery #cptsdsupport #healingandcptsd #nervoussystemhealing #weneedeachother #somaticexperiencing #theempoweredtherapist

EMOTIONAL INVALIDATION . #emotional #relationships #friendship #breakup #relationshipgoals #emotionalinvalidation #invalidation

Let’s try that again shall we *My page is not a replacement for therapy and my posts are not one-size-fits-all. #dismissingfeelings #invalidation #conflictavoidance #relationshipcommunication #familycommunication #recoveringpeoplepleaser #conflictresolution

this helps me so much ♥️ and can truly change everything. Integrate this. It will change your life & how you relate to others. And bring you SO MUCH PEACE!! #relationships #healing #triggers #traumaresponse #compassion #relationshipadvice #invalidation #hurtfeelings

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Everyday Invalidation is so common you might not even spot it much less it’s lasting effects on you. It’s so easy to try and say something positive like “you shouldn’t be sad/feel this because _____” Without knowing that what you’re actually doing is trying to persuade them but they don’t have a right to feel the way that they do. Invalidate someone enough and eventually they can think that they are crazy. Maybe we can learn to listen instead of trying to force our opinions and narratives on other people 🤷‍♂️ . . . #invalidation #mentalhealthquotes #mentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #sadqoutes #sadvideos #feelingsarevalid #vulnerability #mindset #emotionalhealth #emotionalintelligence

1. You’re overreacting. 2. It’s not a big deal. 3. Why are you always so sensitive? 4. You’re imagining things. 5. I guess I can’t do anything right! 6. That never happened. 7. You’re being dramatic. 8. What’s the problem now? 9. Other people have it worse. 10. You always make things about you. 11. Stop being so emotional. 12. Here we go again. 13. You’re making a big deal out of nothing. 14. What’s the problem now? 15. I’m done talking about this. Nothing shuts down emotional connection faster than invalidation. When someone dismisses your feelings, it can make you question yourself, shut down emotionally, or feel unheard in your relationships. Healthy communication means listening without minimising. If you catch yourself using these phrases, try instead: ✅ “I hear you, and I want to understand.” ✅ “Your feelings are valid.” ✅ “Let’s talk about this.” Which of these have you heard before? Let’s talk in the comments. ⬇️ #emotionalvalidation #communicationmatters #selfawareness #relationships #emotionalintelligence #conflict #communication #breakup #breakupquotes #invalidation

Don’t be this person. 🙅🏼‍♀️ ⁣ ⁣ But, if you realize you have been, that’s okay too! I’ve said some of these things in the past. When we know better we do better. Now you know better 💁🏼‍♀️⁣ ⁣ #toxicpositivity #birthtrauma #trauamticbirth #nothankyou #dismissive #invalidation #whatnottosay #birthtraumasurvivor #traumaticbirthsurvivor #empathy #compassion

What a strength 🫶 *My page is not a replacement for therapy and my posts are not one-size-fits-all. #emotionalhealth #relationshipcommunication #familycommunication #invalidation #feelingyourfeelings