#Subconsciencely

Are you stuck in “understanding” instead of connecting to how it made you feel? ❤️ For how to start feeling safe in connecting to your own needs, comment “READY” below 👇🏼

Letting go of relationships is very difficult. Especially when you’ve been brainwashed to believe that the person cares about you. However, their actions continue to show that they don’t care about you. And in between the lack of care, sometimes there are moments of good times, and so you clean onto that while you’re in the relationship thinking that things are good, believing that the person cares, but if they really cared, they wouldn’t put you through the things that they put you through and that’s just the honest truth. Because people who care about you, they want to see you. Thriving. Not hurting. #codependency #narcissisticabuse #pathology #emotionalhealing #manipulationtactics 

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Sometimes you don’t miss them. You miss how they made you feel. Awareness is where healing begins. Option 3 (lebih deep Alice vibe) You’re not weak for staying. You just didn’t see the pattern yet. Now you do… and that changes everything #selfawareness #emotionalhealing #traumabond #selfgrowthjourney #healingprocess #emotionalintelligence #innerhealing #selfworthmatters #toxicrelationshiprecovery

I know I’m not alone so let me know if you resonate in the comments 👇🏼💜 #healingjourney #traumahealing #nervoussystemhealing #codependent #narcissistabuse

If you’re codependent, you don’t know what it feels like to have a solid core or an authentic relationship with the self. Your emotions are determined by other people’s lives, what’s going on with them and whether or not you can rescue, or save them from themselves. You are someone who is subconsciously drawn to those who you believe need to be saved, or fixed. You feel most alive in high intensity situations, finding problems, figuring out what’s wrong and fixing them. You often wonder, “How did I get here again?” You are unaware of the subconscious patterns that drive your thoughts, actions, and decisions. You tend to enmesh with partners and others, and it can feel like the people you care for are IN you. You live your life other focused, trying to control everyone and everything. You fear losing control. You fear what it would mean to really look within yourself and be honest with how you feel. Your drive to seek approval, has you caught on a hamsters wheel. Your familiarity with denying yourself for the sake of others, keeps you in a karmic wheel. Your mind is unsure of what decisions are best because being honest with yourself requires you to put yourself first, which would mean letting go of taking care of others feelings. If you’re codependent, you’re not happy, not really, and you’re not as happy as you could be. One day at a time, we learn to be a little more truthful with ourselves and along the way, we learn to be honest with others about our true needs too. In time, we learn to let go without losing ourselves and discover that in letting go we FIND the self. If you’re ready to break free from codependency and reclaim your authentic self, I invite you to join my 12-Week Breakthrough Coaching Program. For a limited time, you can get 50% off and start your journey today: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp All my love, Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Author of The Road Back to Me Creator of The 12-Week Breakthrough Codependency Recovery Program https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp #codependencyrecovery #healingjourney #breakfreefromcodependency #innerhealing

Does the thought of letting go terrify you? ❤️ If that’s you, then you’re not alone. This is a common reason why so many codependent empaths resist change. All it means is that your body is trying to protect you, in the only way it knows how. But when your body instead learns to feel safe enough to trust change, then the resistance eases, and you stop self-abandoning for others. This is the work we do inside ‘The Healing Empath Circle’. For how to get started, comment “HEAL” then check your DMs ❤️

Are you struggling to “put yourself first”? If you feel shame round not being able to do that, then this is for you… I’ve built an entire system to help you rewire these patterns at their root, so that you can build secure interdependent relationships, that involve care for others AND yourself. Comment “CHANGE” to get started ❤️

🌀 This is what he cycle of anxious attachment and codependency looks like… To heal the ROOT of these tendencies, AND learn the PRACTICAL skills for HOW to identify someone with healthy potential… Then comment “CIRCLE” and get full access to these teachings and coaching support ❤️

Things I don’t feel guilty about as a recovering codependent: • Letting people sit with their own emotions • Not fixing what I didn’t break • Disappointing people • Taking space instead of overexplaining • Raising my standards after betrayal • Not absorbing someone else’s mood • Outgrowing relationships that required self-abandonment Healing codependency means I stopped managing everyone else. Guilt used to feel like love. Now peace does. If this one stung a little… it’s probably yours 🤍 #codependencyrecovery #nervoussystemhealing #healingjourneys #boundarysetting #codependentnomore

This comes up a lot with my clients and is something a lot of people are really looking at and navigating right now. Many highly empathetic people are eventually forced to unlearn the shadow parts within them that disguise themselves as empathy. They can no longer hold what was never theirs to carry in the first place. This gets highlighted through painful situations such as health issues, going through burn-out and exhaustion, chronic pain, reliving the same unhealthy relationship dynamics, getting taken advantage of and so on. Genuine empathy can also override a persons “no” because they feel so deeply. But this can end up being detrimental when that empathy is given at a cost. Learning to navigate this journey comes in many layers and is not an overnight process. Tess 💜 Can you relate ? 👇 #shadowself #shadowworker #codependencyrecovery #empathyquotes

No one talks about the fog after you leave. The silence feels louder than the chaos. Your body doesn’t know you’re safe yet. Your mind keeps searching for the storm it learned to survive. So you question yourself. You feel lost. You wonder if you made a mistake. You didn’t. This is what healing looks like in the beginning, messy, disorienting, unfamiliar… and real. You’re not broken. You’re learning how to live without survival mode. And even if you can’t see it yet, every step through the fog is a step toward yourself. 🤍 #emotionalabuseawareness #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabusesurvivor #traumarecovery #hypnotherapist