#Motherness

The book club guide for Motherness is here! Find it in my links. So excited (and nervous) to be a guest at a book club discussing my memoir tomorrow. Want me to attend yours? Hit me up 💜 #bookclub #memoir #motherness

She truly has changed me and my perspective on things for the better 🥺 #daughter #mother #mom #motherhood #ftm

Is it just in my house? 🏠 #hotmessmom #realmommoments #motherhood

Behind every new mama is a small village quietly lifting her up. Thank you for being my support system 🥹💗 #postpartum #motherhood

No matter how insecure you feel, your baby looks at you and smiles like you’re the most beautiful woman in the world. Does your baby make you feel beautiful too? 🤍 #motherhood #mom #baby #boy #babyboy @instagram

This week @priyankah is joined by her daughter Aanavi. Together they explore patriarchy, leadership, and self-care, highlighting the need for open communication. Join Julia, Priyanka and Aanavi this week as they conclude the three part series by setting intentions for the year and celebrating the uniqueness of each individual, even within a mother-daughter relationship #womenemerging #motherness #daughter #communication

I’ve been replaced @byaneverydaymom #moms #friendship #momlife #motherhood

Literally woke up and decided to hurt my own feelings today 🥹😞 #motherhood #fatherhood #momlife #dadlife #parenthood

I’m a pro at #GirlDinner 😅 If it’s literally JUST me and the kids are not around I can’t be bothered to cook a full meal lol #momsover30 #divorcedmom #datingafterdivorce #momlife #whatieatinaday #motherhood #couples

I literally live for these reactions… I love how pure and magical a child’s imagination is! Here are a few cute things I did: 1. Glitter bill and glitter footprints 2. Glitter coins 3. A special tooth box 4. A little gift for the tooth — this time an electric toothbrush she really wanted ✨ find everything in my bio amazon store or text me TOOTH #momlife #motherhood #fairy #teeth #lifehack

10/10 highly recommend #parentinghacks #motherhood #firsttimeparents

My nan told me about the Angry Daughter In Law theory.
I laughed at first. Then I stopped laughing. She said every family has one.
 One woman who gets described as difficult.
Too sensitive.
Too much.
Too opinionated.
Too protective. And most of the time, she isn’t angry. She’s alone. The daughter in law walks into a family that already has history.
Inside jokes.
Unspoken rules.
Old loyalties that existed long before she did. She didn’t grow up in it.
She didn’t help build it.
 But she’s expected to blend into it without changing anything. She’s expected to adapt.
To understand dynamics she wasn’t raised in.
To respect traditions she didn’t create.
To stay quiet when something doesn’t feel right. And when she speaks up, she becomes the problem. When she sets a boundary, she’s difficult.
When she protects her children, she’s controlling.
When she pulls back, she’s cold. No one sees the invisible work she does.
The planning.
The emotional labour.
The way she carries her own family while trying to fit into another one. No one sees how many times she swallowed her feelings to keep the peace.
How many times she questioned herself.
How many nights she lay awake replaying conversations, wondering if she overreacted. They just see the edge in her voice.
The distance.
The tension. And they call it anger. My nan said something I can’t forget. The woman they label as angry is often the only one who feels unsafe. Unsafe to speak.
Unsafe to be fully herself.
Unsafe to say this hurts. So she hardens. Not because she wants to fight.
 But because no one else is standing up for her. And when I heard that, I realised something that made my stomach turn. In someone else’s version of the story, I am the angry daughter in law. And maybe I am not angry. Maybe I am just tired of carrying what no one else will name. Follow along if you’re doing this alone…without even realising. 
#daughterinlaw #familydynamics #motherhood #relatablemum #boundaries marriagetruths