#Codependent Relationship

Codependency hurts 🥲 Spoken by a recovering codependent! Follow @nathaliachristensen for more 🩷 #datingadvice #relationships #datingcoach #toxicrelationships #relationshipcoach #trendingreels

Fix codependency using this 5-step method: If you feel irritated, guilty or have negative thoughts, answer these questions: 1) What upset me? Example: ”I’m upset that they don’t want to spend time with me.” 2) How did that make me feel? Example: “It makes me feel like I’m unimportant, like they secretly hate being around me.” 3) What do THEY need to feel seen and safe? What do I need to feel seen and safe? Example: “They need to be seen by their friends, and to feel that our relationship is safe” and “I need reassurance and quality time.” 4) Now share steps 1-3 with your partner. Example: "I felt upset and was passive-aggressive the other night when you hung out with your friends. I was worried that you might not enjoy spending time with me, but I understand that you need time with your friends too. I just need some reassurance from you sometimes, and I'd like to spend some quality time with you as well. Can we work on this together?" 5) Collaborate on strategies to be able to come toward each other with this information! #codependency #codependent #relationships #relationshipadvice #relationshiptips

We broke up 6 years ago, and understanding the sneaky ways codependency shows up seriously changed everything for us when we got back together. Now we’re engaged and have a completely different relationship. Here are 7 signs that you might be in a codependent relationship: 1. You feel anxious if they don’t text back right away. 2. Their mood dictates your mood for the whole day. 3. You overthink what you said and replay conversations. 4. You apologize even when you’re not wrong just to keep the peace. 5. You secretly resent them, but don’t actually voice your needs because you want them to want to do it on their own. 6. You feel responsible for fixing their problems (even when they didn’t ask). 7. The thought of them leaving or being alone feels unbearable so you over-give and self-sacrifice to keep them close. ✨If you want to see if codependency is negatively impacting your relationship type “QUIZ” in the comments and I’ll send you my free codependency quiz.✨ Follow @alyssaaazander if you want to learn more about healing codependency through shadow work and inner child healing.

💥 Comment ‘library’ to watch the full episode CODEPENDENCY 101 It’s not your responsibility to manage the emotions, stressors, or behaviors of others — codependency says otherwise. Full breakdown in this week’s episode: - what codependency is - how to recognize it - how to heal it Available now inside @thethirdflr ❣️ #codependency #peoplepleaser #boundaries #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #relationshipadvice

The most important things to know + practice if you’re healing from codependency patterns is: 1. Boundary setting (even when you feel guilty) 2. You aren’t responsible for other people’s emotions. Your role isn’t to manage other people’s issues. 3. Your needs matter: learn to understand them, meet them, + practice (when you’re ready) communicating them to the people you love #selfhealers

Codependency in a relationship looks like…. #drkojo #codependency #mentalhealth

How to Heal CoDependency❤️‍🩹 We commit to making Interdependence SAFE🫶🏽

🚩‘I want to make you happy’ 🚩 It sounds sweet, right? but when we prioritize someone else’s happiness over our own emotional boundaries, we fall into the trap of codependence. The desire to ‘save’ or ‘fix’ can mask a deeper wound within ourselves. True love isn’t about sacrificing your peace for another person’s happiness— it’s about both people growing, healing, and supporting each other’s journey without losing themselves in the process. The modern concept of love has been contorted by media, portraying DEPENDENCY AS LOVE❤️‍🩹 But that’s just wounded people seeking validation through others, and we’ve all been there. I’ve been there, time and time again. It’s why I know this pattern well, but NONE OF US HAVE TO STAY IN THESE DYNAMICS, ❤️‍🩹🌿🧠 Ready to break the pattern and rewrite your narrative? Join me in my group coaching program where we dig deep, heal wounds, and step into power. Your next level is waiting. Comment or DM ‘REDIVINE’ to learn more ❤️‍🩹 #codependency #toxicrelationships #dating #codependent #codependentnomore

IT’S NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to manage the emotions of another adult. Codependence says : “I’m not okay if you’re not okay. So if you’re not okay, I need to fix it for both of us.” The other person’s distress feels like a threat to our own wellbeing and a threat to our connection with them —> so we take over Be supportive. Be kind. Be present. But allow them to rely on their own resilience and trust them to manage their own big feelings ❣️ #codependency #codependentnomore #secureattachment #boundariesarehealthy #emotionalregulation #emotionalresilience #interdependence #healthyrelationships

“She’s not trying to control you. She’s trying to find you.” When a partner is emotionally absent through shutdowns, sarcasm, avoidance it can feel like abandonment masked as “I just need space.” But the partner left behind becomes hyperaware, anxious, and emotionally burdened.This reel is for the one who’s tired of being labeled “too much” for wanting clarity, repair, and connection. ⠀ You’re not too much. You’re too aware. Disclaimer: I’m a therapist, but I’m probably not your therapist. This content is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or crisis support. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, please contact a local crisis line or emergency services. If I am your therapist and this content brings something up for you, let’s hold space for it and process it together in our next session. If you’re interested in coaching or want additional support, feel free to send me a message to learn more. #emotionalimmaturity #relationshiprepair #hypervigilance #therapyreels #mentalhealthawareness #emotionallyunavailable #mentalhealthmatters #wellbeing #arizona #healingjourney #selfcompassion #relationships #selfworth #emotional #couplestherapy #mensmentalhealth #gilbertaz #relationships #couples #couplestherapy #growth #connection #heal #traumainformed #trauma

Needy/clingy partners (people with anxious attachment) aren’t being needy or too much. They’re seeking a love and connection that was missing from childhood. Your resistance to them is your own wounding from your childhood. Blame and control of each other won’t do anything but perpetuate the cycle. Stop the cycle by owning your wounds and emotions and begin the deep healing work. Because you don’t have to stay stuck meeting your partner‘s behavior with resentment, judgment and avoidance, if you heal, you can finally meet them with compassion, patience, and curiosity. That’s where love thrives.

Do you constantly need reassurance in your relationship? 😮 👀Are you anxious whenever there is distance between y’all? Do you feel the need to know exactly what they’re doing every second of the day? 🤍If yes I feel you ... and I’ve been there before The old Janette constantly needed reassurance too 😳 😰Whenever there was space in the relationship I would freak out and assume they didn’t like me anymore I would constantly text & call for their attention and when they didn’t respond I would assume the worst 🤯 😩I felt stuck in an exhausting cycle of wanting love but feeling like a burden at the same time I thought that I just needed to find someone who would understand my anxiousness 🥺 👉🏽But the truth is I needed to be that person who understood how to handle my own anxiousness 🕊When I finally learned how to regulate my emotions and break out of my fear of abandonment I felt so free All the constant worrying and overthinking left my mind 🌬 😤I was no longer a slave to my fears 😤I was no longer assuming the worst in every situation 😤I was no longer anxious whenever there was distance It’s time to take control of your thoughts instead of your thoughts taking control of you ‼️ If you’re ready to END the exhausting cycle of anxiousness and fear of abandonment book a call w/ me ❤️ #fearofabandonement #anxiousattachement #innerchildwound