#Overcoming Codependency Issues

As someone who has loved an addict, I swear by one rule: break the cycle of codependency. For years, I thought addiction was his problem. The drinking. The lies. The chaos. But the truth I had to face, often painfully is that addiction thrives in a family system. And I was part of that system. My constant monitoring, rescuing, and covering up felt like love, but it was also feeding the disease. It nearly broke me to realize that while I didn’t cause his drinking, I was still responsible for my part in the dynamic. I had to learn that my job wasn’t to fix him it was to take responsibility for myself. To choose boundaries over control. To choose peace over chaos. To stop cosigning the addiction with my silence. This was the hardest truth to accept: love does not mean losing yourself to someone else’s disease. Real love, the kind that heals and begins with reclaiming yourself. If you’re here too, carrying more than your share, let this be your reminder: you cannot love someone out of an addiction they don’t want to leave. But you can love yourself enough to break free from the cycle. 💬 Comment HOPE25 to join our membership. This is where we do the work together. Finally naming the patterns, breaking the cycles, and finally finding peace.

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IT’S NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to manage the emotions of another adult. Codependence says : “I’m not okay if you’re not okay. So if you’re not okay, I need to fix it for both of us.” The other person’s distress feels like a threat to our own wellbeing and a threat to our connection with them —> so we take over Be supportive. Be kind. Be present. But allow them to rely on their own resilience and trust them to manage their own big feelings ❣️ #codependency #codependentnomore #secureattachment #boundariesarehealthy #emotionalregulation #emotionalresilience #interdependence #healthyrelationships

Fix codependency using this 5-step method: If you feel irritated, guilty or have negative thoughts, answer these questions: 1) What upset me? Example: ”I’m upset that they don’t want to spend time with me.” 2) How did that make me feel? Example: “It makes me feel like I’m unimportant, like they secretly hate being around me.” 3) What do THEY need to feel seen and safe? What do I need to feel seen and safe? Example: “They need to be seen by their friends, and to feel that our relationship is safe” and “I need reassurance and quality time.” 4) Now share steps 1-3 with your partner. Example: "I felt upset and was passive-aggressive the other night when you hung out with your friends. I was worried that you might not enjoy spending time with me, but I understand that you need time with your friends too. I just need some reassurance from you sometimes, and I'd like to spend some quality time with you as well. Can we work on this together?" 5) Collaborate on strategies to be able to come toward each other with this information! #codependency #codependent #relationships #relationshipadvice #relationshiptips

THE CAGE OF CODEPENDENCY (and how to get out!) #Manifestation #LawOfAttraction #Magic thank you Salata for inspiring this video! ❤️ u Sheri!

At it’s core, Codependency stems from a lack of Self. And so it doesn’t matter actually how it manifests for you in behavior. The recovery is all linked to building a solid sense of and relationship to that capital “S” Self. So every time you listen to yourself and act on what you truly want, desire, feel, need - you’re telling that small muted and greyed out sense of self that you are there to listen, you are there to learn, that you trust you, and that you’ve got you. And every time you do that, that quiet voice gets louder. That connection gets stronger. That inner knowing - ie the relationship to that sense of Self - grows.

The most important things to know + practice if you’re healing from codependency patterns is: 1. Boundary setting (even when you feel guilty) 2. You aren’t responsible for other people’s emotions. Your role isn’t to manage other people’s issues. 3. Your needs matter: learn to understand them, meet them, + practice (when you’re ready) communicating them to the people you love #selfhealers

This one made me tear up a little 😢 Being a chronic caretaker can leave you abandoning your needs while feeling resentful others aren’t taking care of you. This is a key dynamic at play in codependent and unboundaried relationships. I talk about all of this and how to break free from these patterns in my book - Your Pocket Therapist. Pre-order now with the link in my bio. #therapy #psychology #lifeadvice #relationships #datingadvice #mentalhealth #attachmentstyle #motivation #lovequotes #anxiety #obsession #relationshipadvice #spirituality #childhood #selfesteem #selflove #codependency

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What it takes to Break Free From Codependency...

The cure for codependency does not start with sending your partner to a counsellor. The cure for codependency starts with working on yourself. This includes: 1. Understanding who you are 2. Recognizing your own needs 2. Recognizing your own triggers, adaptations and limitations 3. Healing your old wounds 4. Meeting your own 12 Basic Needs 5. Regulating your own emotions 6. Implementing and maintaining boundaries #healthy #healing #relationships #mentalhealth #complextrauma #addictionrecovery #addiction #complextraumarecovery #cbt #timfletcher #fy #fyp #mentalhealthawareness #shorts #healingcomplextrauma #signsofhealing #narcissism #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuserecovery #recovery #basicneeds #12basicneeds

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