#Co Dependent

At it’s core, Codependency stems from a lack of Self. And so it doesn’t matter actually how it manifests for you in behavior. The recovery is all linked to building a solid sense of and relationship to that capital “S” Self. So every time you listen to yourself and act on what you truly want, desire, feel, need - you’re telling that small muted and greyed out sense of self that you are there to listen, you are there to learn, that you trust you, and that you’ve got you. And every time you do that, that quiet voice gets louder. That connection gets stronger. That inner knowing - ie the relationship to that sense of Self - grows.

Codependency in a relationship looks like…. #drkojo #codependency #mentalhealth

My approach and the words I use are not for everyone. I don’t love soft and fluffy. I like clear and blunt language. Blame it on being from the Northeast. Blame it on the ADHD. Regardless, this is helpful for me to check myself on my recovery journey. And for me it’s not without compassion. I don’t blame myself for where it’s coming from. For the fear of abandonment that fuels the behavior. But we have to be honest about the shadow side of codependency to truly do the recovery work. Imo 😬🤷🏼‍♀️ . . . . . . . . . . #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthadvocate #interdependence #anxiety #codependencynomore #codependency #instaquote #empowerment #empowermentquotes #boundaries #recovery #healing #healingchildhood #emotionalintelligence #healyourself #emotions #emotionsmatter #selfhealer #selfhealers #selfhealing #selfhealingjourney #selfheal #senseofself #codependent #recoveringcodependent #selflove #selfexpression #innergrowth #selfdiscovery

Ask us anything in the comments! 😊 We share our story for those who need to see that healthy co-parenting is possible. It’s not perfect, but it’s worth it. We’re all just doing our best, and that’s enough. #coparenting #healthycoparenting #consciousuncoupling #modernfamily #blendedmodernfamily

If you have a “clingy” partner, this is what their Inner child’s experience looks like🫶🏽🥹 . . . #clingygirlfriend #codependent #codependentnomore #healingrelationships #conscioushealing #consciouspartnership #innerchildhealing

Before jumping in and saying, “helping others is ALWAYS the right thing to do” I really encourage you to have an honest look at where that statement is coming from in you. Is it coming from a wound where you felt you needed help from someone else but were abandoned, and instead of feeling the pain of that, you’ve built a moral stance against anything that might look like abandonment? Is it coming from a caretaker part of you that has learned you only have value if you are of value to someone else? And there’s a deep fear around who you are if you’re not taking care of others? If this post activates you, first feel the anger, then drop a layer beneath it into the sadness (and there WILL be sadness if you drop deep enough). And THEN have a conversation with yourself about what that sadness is connected to. That’s where healing will happen. And from that healing you’ll be better equipped to hold the nuances of this message. This post is NOT suggesting to just abandon people when it gets hard. And it’s not designed for us to use “Tough Love” as an egoic/moralistic stance against not wanting to help others or avoiding the pain of our own feeling of helplessness. It’s about looking at a situation for what it actually is, having an honest assessment with yourself about any codependency that may be at place, and then using your own deep heart discernment around what is ACTUALLY in service to this other person. And remember, this video says *sometimes* the most compassionate thing to do is let another person struggle. It is NOT saying that this is ALWAYS the right thing to do. You need to use your own judgment based on the context, your needs, your boundaries, and the person. And yes, it’s hard as hell. Feel free to share your thoughts below ❤️

I know it’s their job but I FEEL BAD FOR NOT HELPING IM SORRY 😭 #moving #movers #codependent #therapy #anxiety

We broke up 6 years ago, and understanding the sneaky ways codependency shows up seriously changed everything for us when we got back together. Now we’re engaged and have a completely different relationship. Here are 7 signs that you might be in a codependent relationship: 1. You feel anxious if they don’t text back right away. 2. Their mood dictates your mood for the whole day. 3. You overthink what you said and replay conversations. 4. You apologize even when you’re not wrong just to keep the peace. 5. You secretly resent them, but don’t actually voice your needs because you want them to want to do it on their own. 6. You feel responsible for fixing their problems (even when they didn’t ask). 7. The thought of them leaving or being alone feels unbearable so you over-give and self-sacrifice to keep them close. ✨If you want to see if codependency is negatively impacting your relationship type “QUIZ” in the comments and I’ll send you my free codependency quiz.✨ Follow @alyssaaazander if you want to learn more about healing codependency through shadow work and inner child healing.

Controlling behavior is often the first red flag of abuse—it may look like excessive monitoring, jealousy, or telling you what you should or shouldn’t do, all disguised as “care.” People with codependent patterns often go into a freeze or fawn response, feeling anxious about conflict and quickly trying to please, accommodate, or keep the peace. Over time, this dynamic allows the controlling person to gain more power while the codependent person slowly loses their voice, boundaries, and sense of self. Post by @cine.mazes. ❤️‍🩹if this resonates take my quiz am in a relationship or dating a narcissist? And get my FREE ebook https://sherrygaba.com/npquiz

A healthy relationship requires… Holding space for your partner to share vulnerably. If you struggle to hold space for your partner, chances are, your wounds are being triggered & your Ego is coming out… So learn how to heal those wounds & regulate your emotions when you’re having vulnerable conversations. If you don’t create a safe space for your partner (& yourself) to share what’s on your mind & heart - your relationship will end soon. Whats your thoughts on this? 🤔❤️ Drop your thoughts below & share this if you agree xx Video: @jimmy_on_relationships

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Codependency is more prevalent than we realize. Fortunately, there's a program that can provide support. Click the link in our bio for the full episode. #reels #coda #codependency #therapy