#Co Dependency

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Fix codependency using this 5-step method: If you feel irritated, guilty or have negative thoughts, answer these questions: 1) What upset me? Example: ”I’m upset that they don’t want to spend time with me.” 2) How did that make me feel? Example: “It makes me feel like I’m unimportant, like they secretly hate being around me.” 3) What do THEY need to feel seen and safe? What do I need to feel seen and safe? Example: “They need to be seen by their friends, and to feel that our relationship is safe” and “I need reassurance and quality time.” 4) Now share steps 1-3 with your partner. Example: "I felt upset and was passive-aggressive the other night when you hung out with your friends. I was worried that you might not enjoy spending time with me, but I understand that you need time with your friends too. I just need some reassurance from you sometimes, and I'd like to spend some quality time with you as well. Can we work on this together?" 5) Collaborate on strategies to be able to come toward each other with this information! #codependency #codependent #relationships #relationshipadvice #relationshiptips

IT’S NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY to manage the emotions of another adult. Codependence says : “I’m not okay if you’re not okay. So if you’re not okay, I need to fix it for both of us.” The other person’s distress feels like a threat to our own wellbeing and a threat to our connection with them —> so we take over Be supportive. Be kind. Be present. But allow them to rely on their own resilience and trust them to manage their own big feelings ❣️ #codependency #codependentnomore #secureattachment #boundariesarehealthy #emotionalregulation #emotionalresilience #interdependence #healthyrelationships

The most important things to know + practice if you’re healing from codependency patterns is: 1. Boundary setting (even when you feel guilty) 2. You aren’t responsible for other people’s emotions. Your role isn’t to manage other people’s issues. 3. Your needs matter: learn to understand them, meet them, + practice (when you’re ready) communicating them to the people you love #selfhealers

💥 Comment ‘library’ to watch the full episode CODEPENDENCY 101 It’s not your responsibility to manage the emotions, stressors, or behaviors of others — codependency says otherwise. Full breakdown in this week’s episode: - what codependency is - how to recognize it - how to heal it Available now inside @thethirdflr ❣️ #codependency #peoplepleaser #boundaries #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #relationshipadvice

Drop a 💙 and please let me know in the comments how codependency shows up for you in relationships. @authormelodybeattie is an absolute genius and her book “Codependent No More” is a must read. 📘 I read her book in 1986 and heard the word “codependent” for the first time and it was an “aha” life changing moment. I’ve been reading this book every year for 30+ years and every time I get an even deeper understanding of where and how codependency causes suffering in my relationships. 🌺 I think it should be required reading in school. There is so much wisdom in this book and the truth is, once we understand how codependent we are in a relationship we actually begin to set ourselves free. Thank you Melody Beattie for this treasure. ✨

Codependency VS Interdependency, My favorite break down for clients 🫶🏽

Let me know if you resonate with anything in this video! Next video will be specifically about CODAs & my “theory” 💞#codependency #codependent #mentalhealth

🚩‘I want to make you happy’ 🚩 It sounds sweet, right? but when we prioritize someone else’s happiness over our own emotional boundaries, we fall into the trap of codependence. The desire to ‘save’ or ‘fix’ can mask a deeper wound within ourselves. True love isn’t about sacrificing your peace for another person’s happiness— it’s about both people growing, healing, and supporting each other’s journey without losing themselves in the process. The modern concept of love has been contorted by media, portraying DEPENDENCY AS LOVE❤️‍🩹 But that’s just wounded people seeking validation through others, and we’ve all been there. I’ve been there, time and time again. It’s why I know this pattern well, but NONE OF US HAVE TO STAY IN THESE DYNAMICS, ❤️‍🩹🌿🧠 Ready to break the pattern and rewrite your narrative? Join me in my group coaching program where we dig deep, heal wounds, and step into power. Your next level is waiting. Comment or DM ‘REDIVINE’ to learn more ❤️‍🩹 #codependency #toxicrelationships #dating #codependent #codependentnomore

Codependency is when, instead of regulating my own mood, I try to regulate your behavior. I will find no serenity until I admit that the only person I can control is myself. ㅤ #codependency #selfcontrol #soulwisdom

what was a survival strategy became a compulsive habit. #cptsd #traumahealing #book #peoplepleasing #codependency

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